Comments on: All Good Things

By: Mike

Mike — Tue, 29 May 2012 22:38:44 +0000

Diane-Gay. Marriage has nothing to do with a god. You say you made your vows before a god, but I’m pretty sure there was no one there who claimed to be a god. Marriage is a legal contract that joins two people in a corporation, nothing more.

By: Mike

Mike — Tue, 29 May 2012 22:31:27 +0000

Laura, how else do you get out of such a relationship?

By: Mike

Mike — Tue, 29 May 2012 22:29:43 +0000

Actually, there is nothing in the end.

By: Spiritmom

Spiritmom — Fri, 25 May 2012 03:12:29 +0000

Marriage is for keeps. You’ll be sorry. Wrong decision, buddy.

By: Maria

Maria — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 18:41:06 +0000

I support your decision for privacy and normally I would not comment on a personal issue. However I have 3 friends going through divorce now, 2 initiated by the husband and one by the wife. In all 3 cases the recieving spouse did not move on until the divorce decree. I find it odd that Kris moved forward after just 6 weeks. She knew. Better yet she knew and accepted it. Good luck to you both in your next chapter. Does Kris have a blog? Her perspective could help others. Cheers

By: Christopher Harley

Christopher Harley — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 09:19:16 +0000

Your situation reminds me of Laura Munson's essay that appeared in the NY Times; "Those Aren’t Fighting Words, Dear."

By: Tisi

Tisi — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 02:25:13 +0000

So this sounds weird even to me, as I don’t know you personally and have only commented once or twice. Somehow in the years I have been reading your blog (since 2007!) I began to look up to you and Kris as an example of a healthy relationship. I don’t have any real life examples of that, and the self-screening quality of blogging means that your audience sees only what you want them to see. Yet some quality of good writing makes an audience feel they have a window into your life. I’m surprised by how emotionally invested I have become in a relationship that I do not have any true contact with.

That said, no one really knows whats going on inside of a marriage except the people in it. If at some point you and Kris become comfortable enough with your new relationship with each other and the changes in your life the led to it to share with the internet, I for one would appreciate filling the holes in the narrative.

Sometimes you wonder – If a couple who seemed so great at working with each other couldn’t make it – what chance does my much less ideal relationship have? I think that may have more to do with emotional comments you have gotten so far than anything else.

By: Lura

Lura — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 23:50:52 +0000

Hi JD– I am long time reader of GRS, and seldom poster…. I just today tuned back in after awhile away. Read how you sold GRS and the divorce too. Selling GRS, I should have know by all the Ads… The divorce, I just wanted to say makes you a more real person to me that I actually relate to a bit better. being a single Mom I feel that GRS is often dominated by the DINK– double income no kids. I often have to sort that out and just focus on all the practical stuff that I came there for. I often felt peoples comments were to make themselves feel good… “look how much we have saved” etc… more of an ego stroking thing. It takes a stronger ego to be honest with yourself no matter what the cost and I applaud you. You may have lost readers, but you may gain some as well. Congrats on you future!!

By: Chris

Chris — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 16:41:23 +0000

JD,

Long time reader of GRS and GFS, sorry to read about the divorce — no fun at all I’m sure. I hope you continue to be successful.

I recently went through the same issue of hunting health insurance as an individual and I wrote about it, I thought you might find it helpful:

http://blog.christopherrcooper.com/the-best-health-insurance-for-self-employed-and-entrepreneurs/

Cheers and good luck,

Chris

By: Dana

Dana — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 16:04:50 +0000

Sadly, this is a very common scenario. The wife sacrifices to provide financial and domestic stability so that the husband has the freedom to make his dreams come true. Once he achieves financial and personal success, he sheds the old life in favor of exciting new adventures. It’s not fair but it is, unfortunately, not unique.