The View of Her Tomatoes

11 October 2009 · 7 comments

Some of the biggest conflicts of our marriage come when Kris and I cannot agree on where to place things. We’ve had huge rows about seating arrangements for dinner parties, for example. And when we receive our furniture shipment later today, I’m sure there’ll be some tension as we try to find the ideal layout.

But for now, this moment, we’re fighting over blueberries.

Kris doesn’t really like blueberries. And because I don’t do as much as I should to help in the garden, she’s leaving the current blueberry project to me. I tore out three of our blueberries (the 25-year-old plants the neighbors gave us) as well as our two gooseberries. Yesterday we bought three new plants, and we have two more coming by mail. It’s up to me to decide where to plant them.

In theory, I’d simply plant them where the old plants were. But the old plants didn’t thrive. Part of this was because I didn’t water them enough, but there’s also the problem that they didn’t get enough sun, and that they were spaced too closely together.

I’d like to create a dedicated blueberry patch in our yard. This morning, I walked through the north side, looking for a place to put the plants. There really isn’t one. The north side gets full sun, but it’s packed with fruit trees. It’s our orchard. There’s really no place to put blueberries.

Fortunately, there are a couple of spaces on the south side of the house that might work. The best spot, in my opinion, is running east-to-west next to the vegetable garden. There’s plenty of space, it gets full sun, and I could alter the soil as needed.

Unfortunately, Kris hates this idea. For some reason, she refuses to let me put the blueberries there. We’ve been butting heads now for an hour.

It occurred to me that I didn’t know exactly why she didn’t want me to plant the blueberries between the house and the vegetable garden. So I asked her. And here was her reply: “They’ll block my view,” she said.

“View of what?” I asked.

“The view of my tomatoes,” she said. “I like to look out and admire them. I try to make the garden beautiful and pleasing to me. I put a lot of work into it. I want to be able to see it.”


Far be it from me to deprive Kris of a view of her tomatoes. She does a lot of work around here, and she deserves to be able to see the fruits of her labor. (Literally.) I’ll find someplace else to put the blueberries. (I’ll probably put them in the spots we had originally designated.)

But when the Man Room furniture comes in a couple of hours, I’m going to be assertive! Just once in our 20+ years together, I’d like to win one of these arguments about where to put things. Kris can’t always be right — can she?

1 luneray October 11, 2009 at 16:36

It’s called the “man room” for a reason! Good luck! :)

2 Paul J. October 11, 2009 at 17:57

I feel like I always lose those “discussions” too.

3 jammer(six) October 11, 2009 at 19:41

Kris can’t always be right?


Maybe — just maybe — JD can always be wrong… ;-)

4 Chris Guillebeau October 11, 2009 at 19:50

For the record, the Guillebeau household is really enjoying these posts. Can’t wait to see photos of your new Man Room!

cg / jkg

5 Tiffany October 12, 2009 at 09:11

Could you put the blueberries to the west of the tomatoes? You could make a new bed, far enough away from the tomatoes to not block their light.

6 Sue Harvey October 12, 2009 at 18:28

See how much trouble blueberries are! I suggest that you plant them in your neighbor’s yard and then they will share them with you. It’s a win win!

7 Drew October 16, 2009 at 04:00

Is it the fruit of her labor or the vegetables of her labor?

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